Have you heard of vaginismus? It is a situation in which the woman feels pain during vaginal penetration. This has nothing to do with the male penis size nor any physical problems. This situation is not even considered a disease, but a psychological syndrome or sexual dysfunction.
In vaginismus, the woman feels pain on penetration. Image: pornpics.com
Like erectile dysfunction ou premature ejaculation in men it usually has psychological causes, vaginismus also works like this. In addition, there are levels of vaginismus that can range from mild to severe, depending on the level of discomfort or even complete impossibility of penetration.
Treatment may involve consultations with a psychologist and medication to treat any physical problems resulting from vaginismus, such as infections, candidiasis, lack of lubrication, among others.
Read the full text to better understand how vaginismus happens and how you can help your partner overcome this situation.
Vaginismus is caused by attempted penetration. Image: pornpics.com
In short, it is a syndrome in which the woman feels pain when penetrating, either through the partner's penis, through the finger, through the insertion of a tampon or even through the speculum – an object used for gynecological examinations.
It happens both by the penetration attempt itself and also by imagination, a woman's fear, when visualizing an attempt. Exposed to the “risk” of penetration, the vagina involuntarily contracts, contracting the entire vagina and even adjacent muscles such as the perineum and anus.
These contractions can be light, causing some discomfort, but allowing penetration. Or severe, making it impossible for any organ or object to enter the vagina. The more severe the contraction, the more complex the treatment process will be and also the greater the pain of the attempts – both physical and psychological.
The first step to help is to be patient. Image: pornpics.com
The first step in helping a woman suffering from vaginismus is to support her. Don't reinforce stereotypes like "it's your fault" or "you don't trust me". The woman with this painting already has emotional locks related to sex. It is not with phrases like that that the problem will be solved.
Vaginismus is frustrating for men, but even more so for women, as it is accompanied by fear of abandonment by the partner, stigmas of being bad in bed, and a nasty little question that comes from the back of the mind: will I ever make it? ?
With partner support and professional help, women with vaginismus can have a normal sex life. But for that, it is necessary to find the focus of the problem, which may be related to several issues: moral, religious, cultural, educational, and other even more complex aspects such as a history of sexual abuse and lack of sexual knowledge.
So be patient, show that you are on her side in this situation and that you will respect her time. Be present during the treatment, understand what needs to be done and what kind of words can help her (compliments, reinforcement that you love her and that you are with her).
Feeling safe is key for women in the vaginismus healing process. Be an ally, not a hindrance.
