It even seems strange to be talking about this subject. As if telling your family you're gay is a problem.
It shouldn't be. But is. Mainly because of fear, the fear that most people end up having about what the other's reaction will be.
Be that other the father, mother, an aunt, grandparents, cousins, it doesn't matter. In this space, the family will be discussed in general.
If your biggest doubt is just telling your parents, I recommend you follow this content.
You finding this is already a big step. This means that prejudice is probably far from you.
But, there is no certainty, right? The matter has not yet been discussed and it's just things happening for you to be sure.
Even because, now it is no longer with others. And with you. And that can lead your family to act in a completely different way than you expect.
Therefore, patience is essential in this process. After counting, leave them alone for a while. Allow them to think about it. If so, expect them to look for you and not you.
No rushing or getting anxious. It's a sensitive subject for some people and this demand for an answer can cause some problems.
One of them is that you end up listening to what you don't want to. People, in the heat of emotion, end up saying things that, if they thought better, they wouldn't say. That's why giving them time is so fundamental.
Remember that, no matter how understanding and even studied people are, they do not always react in the same way in relation to specific situations.
Believe it or not, some people go their whole lives without admitting they are homosexual to their family and to them, it's okay.
Just as some suffer from not telling and keeping it to themselves. So, if you are sure you want to tell, everything will certainly be easier, because you won't change your mind halfway through.
Talk to people about it. This can also help you a lot. Do everything you can to feel better and not feel that your sexual orientation is a problem. Many people will think so. You don't have to be one of them anymore.
Another suggestion is before telling your family about it, talk about homosexuality with them in general to see what they say about it.
Of course, they can say that they even think it's natural and, when appropriate, act differently. It's the most normal thing in the world.
But at least you already have an idea of how things will turn out.
If you have a very close cousin or a closer aunt, talking to them might be a great idea. So, you end up getting someone who is like an ally in the sense of telling your family that you are gay.
It doesn't matter if the person is from your family or not. If she judges you, don't call. Be sure that by letting people talk and complain alone, you'll realize that you'll feel much lighter.
Nothing is more important than your mental health and if you want to keep it intact, you need to learn to be more impartial.
Want to talk about your sexual choice? Let them talk. Do you want to judge it? All good. You know what you want and how good it is for you. And that's all that matters.
If, when you tell your family that you're gay, someone prefers to stay away and really time passes nothing changes, don't judge them either. Just like you don't want these judgments.
Forgive anyone who doesn't accept you. The family is our greatest good and they only want our good. They don't always manage to demonstrate this in the best possible way, but that's how things work.
And it's not because some people don't accept you that you need to be afraid of, for example, coming out at work or to your friends.
Assume. Don't assume. But be okay with yourself. That's what really matters.
As for social networks, if this is your question, you must choose how much you want to expose your wants and desires and also choices. And that doesn't just apply to homosexuals, but to heterosexuals as well.
Everyone can do whatever they want, as long as they understand that there are consequences for doing so.
If you decide, for example, to post your sexual choices to everyone and it makes you feel good, there are no problems with that.
Just know that by exposing yourself, criticism can be much greater. However, once again understand that if this is your decision, there is nothing to worry about.
There's no way to guess the reactions, but how to get an idea for sure. If your parents are more conservative, for example, or have already talked about the subject with you and demonstrated that they are not very much in favor of homosexuality, start slowly.
That way, comment how much this is a choice that did you good and that you would really be very happy if they understood your side too, respected you, at least.
Talk about the number of cases currently, which is quite large and these people already suffer too much prejudice, so having the support of the family is very important.
Make sure they start to see things through your eyes and not just get the idea that everything will be too difficult.
Many families suffer when they learn precisely because of the fear of what their son, nephew, grandson will suffer. People know exactly about the society they live in and how much it discriminates.
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