The acronym BDSM has intricate in its meaning six words: Bondage and Discipline (B/D), Sadism and Masochism (S/M), and Domination and submission (D/s). Bondage is the practice of restricting movement. Discipline is about carrying out “punishments” to a disobedient submissive. Another member of the acronym above all are Domination and submission, which are the practices of ceding or taking control over the other person.
Finally, Sadism and Masochism, which are the subject of this post. S/M is about what may be the most misunderstood and obscure part of BDSM: taking pleasure in inflicting pain or taking pleasure in being in situations that cause pain. Keep reading to better understand the meaning of these words and their practices!
Sadists inflict pain and masochists enjoy feeling it. Image: pornpics.com
To learn more about the other terms in the BDSM acronym, read also: Domination and submission (D/s) e Bondage and Discipline (B/D).
Sadists are people who derive pleasure from inflicting pain on another person. On the other hand, masochists are those who enjoy feeling pain. In other words, the acronym S/M refers to couples who like to inflict/feel pain, whether in sexual practices or role plays. Bearing in mind that, primarily, all BDSM practices may or may not involve sexual acts, with the emotional and psychological being the part most valued by practitioners.
Some examples of Sadism and Masochism techniques are aggression, spanking, cuts, burns, or other alternatives that cause pain. If the image of someone pouring hot wax on someone else comes to your mind, we're on the right track. However, S/M can be quite distracting. If you are really interested in the subject and want to know more, be careful to do so in a good psychological moment.
The BDSM world, despite being introduced by 50 Shades of Grey, is not just that shallow layer shown by the film and it can disturb many people.
Some practices can be disturbing, beware. Image: pornpics.com
To guarantee the basic premise of BDSM, sane, safe and consensual, most couples choose to define an “emergency word” that must be used when the practice passes any of these three pillars. The expression of emergency must be agreed between the couple before starting any activity and always be respected, ensuring that the choices and limits of those involved are respected. The defined word should be easy to say, short and should not be linked to negative terms like “no” or “stop”, as these words can be an incentive for sadists or even dominators in role plays of forced sex.
Security word must be set beforehand. Image: pornpics.com
In addition to the safe word, some couples in BDSM relationships use contracts – word of mouth or even printed and registered – to formalize the rights and duties of those involved in the practice. It is a positive tool, as it aligns the couple's expectations and protects their rights. Some topics that can be defined in the contract are whether the relationship is just sexual, loving or just for role plays, without sexual contact; the safe word. Frequency of meetings; acceptable and unacceptable practices and breach of contract clause.
